It’s interesting how the culture we grow up in impresses upon us unspoken rules that are expected of us. You should shake hands with a person you’re meeting. You should shower often enough so you don’t stink! You shouldn’t pass gas in front of women… often. When it comes to dating, there’s a lot of pressure to do certain things with the other person that just… assumed… because you’re in a relationship. Holding hands, kissing, maybe some tongue, spending lots of time together, making out while the rest of the family is out, and maybe even beyond. Whether from your friends or the person you’re dating, it’s assumed you’re involved in these things, and are looked at awkwardly if you don’t.
The title and direction of this blog comes from 1 Corinthians 6:12. I found it particularly relevant for the situation I found myself in when I was looking for a mate. I felt certain convictions I believed were from God to try and lead a pure life. It led me to act a certain way and treat women, particularly those I had an interest in, differently than perhaps my culture instructed. Being in Bible College, my friends, future leaders of the church, found my convictions to be over the top and unnecessary, often mocking me for them. It led me to begin wondering if I really didn’t need to have the convictions I thought to be so important. I prayed about it, and God gave me my answer.
Within a week of all of this, I met another person with the same convictions I had. Today I’m married to that girl, and couldn’t be happier.
“Everything is permissible for me”but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me”but I will not be mastered by anything. … The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. … Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. — 1 Cor. 6:12-13, 15-17
Reading this passage, with my life experience in mind, I can’t help but think… yes, I can’t say that many of the things that dating couples do are “sinful” (insert chapter and verse), but I can suggest that although things may be permissible, not all things are beneficial. Decide for yourself.
Question: What convictions do you have when it comes to relating to your girl/guy?