There’s a tongue-in-cheek saying one of my theology professors used to suggest to us: “Don’t have sex standing up–it may lead to dancing!” It’s a comical statement meant to shine light on a trend among many Christians: believers seem to be more accepting and forgiving of those involved in fornication (premarital sex) and adultery (extramarital sex) than of those who like to ‘shake their groove thang’ (whatever a ‘groove thang’ is).
No matter your view on the “righteousness (or lack thereof) of dancing”, Scripture is clear that any kind of sex other than with your husband/wife whom you’re married to is forbidden. There is NO place for it in the life of a follower of Christ. Just read these few examples:
You shall not commit adultery.
Mark 7:21, 23–
For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed the evil thoughts, fornications, thefts, murders, adulteries… All these evil things proceed from within and defile the man.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10–
Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.
Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Scripture is clear that a sexually promiscuous lifestyle is detriment to a healthy spiritual life, and goes so far as to suggest one should check their heart because they may have fallen from the family of God (or were never in it, for you Calvinists out there).
It is my hope all of this goes without saying, and you all replied with a resounding DUH! as you read this. But having a sinful nature myself, I know no one is immune, no matter what influence your parents were to you.
There is no place for sex in a dating relationship! And it is the goal of this website and discussion to determine where the “line” is that should not be crossed.
Question: How far is too far when it comes to intimate relations with your boy/girlfriend? Where’s the line?