Preparing for failure: Divorce before marriage?

With Valentine’s Day happening yesterday, relationships are on people’s minds. Here in Toronto, a number of people took the opportunity to tie the night in marriage, in celebration of this special day to celebrate relationships.

Over a candle-lit dinner, my wife and I were discussing the subject of discussion on the news for the day where they asked their viewers “Is marriage important to you?” Viewers called into the newscast giving their opinion on whether marriage is an old tradition and irrelevant for us today, or something to continue to hold on to tightly in celebration of commitment. There were varying views from each side.

One of the comments my wife heard from a viewer on the news reminded me Continue reading “Preparing for failure: Divorce before marriage?”

Have you ever wondered why you don’t see any church weddings in the Bible? Some things to think about:

  • The Bible word sometimes translated ‘fornication’ does not mean ‘sex before marriage.’
  • In the Bible, weddings were purely secular.
  • Under Old Testament law, casual sex was impossible. For an unmarried man to have sex with an unmarried woman was to make an even more binding commitment than normal marriage.
  • In God’s eyes, a one night stand makes two people one.
  • There is a deep spiritual significance in a virgin bride shedding blood on her wedding night.
  • Christians are free to break many Church and Western traditions. (ref.)

Jesus said in Matt 19:4-6:

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

Are you getting it? Having sex is not just a pleasurable physical act, like eating a Krispy Kreme donut. Rather God made it to be INCREDIBLY SPIRITUAL as well! Two become one flesh! God wasn’t just trying to be poetic and romantic so as to make future church ceremonies sound good with this scripture. Your spirit joins together with your partner’s spirit, LITERALLY!

Therefore, a romantic relationship is also a spiritual relationship.

Why do you think it’s so painful to break up with your girl/boyfriend or why divorce is so life damaging or why rape victims will never be the same again? They’ve given a part of their spirit to another! Whether by choice or not.

When is sex before marriage permissible? According to scripture sex before marriage is not even possible. The very act creates a spiritual, marital bond between the two that is stronger than any public ceremony. (We’ll try to define “sex” in future posts.)

Why then do we treat sex so wrecklessly?

Question: Why do you think relationship break-ups, broken engagements, and divorce is so painful?

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