Unequally yoked: Yes! It is a big deal!

Simply said, yes, it is a VERY big deal to be in partnership with a person who does not hold the same beliefs as you. Scripture is clear that this should not be.

As I pointed to in my last post, 2 Corinthians 6:14 clearly states we are not to mix light with darkness. This reminds me of the accusations Jesus took from some Pharisees who claimed Jesus was a manifestation of Satan himself. The Christ responds with,

Any kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall. If Satan is divided against himself, how can his kingdom stand? I say this because you claim that I drive out demons by Beelzebul. — Luke 11:17, 18

For this relationship argument, Jesus’ words are what weigh heaviest for me. A kingdom divided against itself will be ruined. If this is true, how can the kingdom you will develop with your partner be built up strong and not fall if you are divided against yourselves from the beginning? You’re setting yourself up for failure.

Unequally yoked: Is it really a big deal?

Working with young people, one of the most common questions I hear stems from the apparent Biblical principle that we should not date/marry a person who does not have the same faith in Christ as we do.

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? — 2 Corinthians 6:14

The overarching idea seems to be that being in a relationship, with the assumption of eventually being committed to each other in marriage, to someone without the same faith standards as yourself would cause problems in the marriage, and out of a need to see eye-to-eye, could cause those strong in their faith to compromise on their beliefs.

What do you think? Is it really that important for a Christian to marry another Christian? Or is there really a case to be made for “evangelistic dating,” where the Christian tries to convert the non-believing partner?

What has your experience been? Add your comments.